Bali and How It Taught Me about Love

There are a lot of things in this world that directed to love. When we talk about that thing, it is gonna be a never ending story or topic to be talked about. It sometimes also leads to the deep talk that i have mentioned it before in my previous post.

I have one life principle. "Travel and Explore to one place that you have never visited before at least one place a year". At first it was just like a resolution, like a life mission, but turned out it became a life principle that makes me, live. So i finally have a chance to spend some times in Bali after all this time ! I haven't been go to Bali before. So this was my first time finally feeling about magical things that people like to brag about this whole time, or about the beauty and the culture or something else that happened to them in Bali that make them cherish it forever.  I have always jealous of them, anyway. So, when i had a chance to go there, i was very excited. I prepared myself which it was new for people who look at me being so much organized like that. Since i am one of the spontaneous type of persons. Well, i think i should thank to one of my bestfriends, because she planned to get married in Bali and because of that i flew up the sky to Bali ! Yeiy!

My best friend from junior highschool, she won Australian man and hearts of his family. She surprised us by told us in January that she would probably get married in about August, the date of her birthday. We knew that she was in a relationship with foreigner but never thought it was gonna be that fast. She has always been the most rebel, reckless and free spirit girl among us all. So seeing her finally tied a knot somehow make us wonder, how could that be possible. She wondered herself too, i guess. As she is perfectionist, me and my other best friends were busy made a plan about her wedding (as she asked us to be her bridesmaids and kind of wedding organizer) in a very short time.  We have known each other since junior high school and we have known each other very well. So she trust no one but us to arrange all of the little tiny detail things in her wedding. It was the first time for us to manage cross-cultural marriage and it was... hectic ! HAHAHA! But it was very fun. To witness all of the differences just make things better by pulling it become one. The wedding procession was very sweet, lovely and sacred. The avenue was in the seafront, and the time was at dusk. So you can imagine how it was so very full of love, two people became one by marriage, with the sea and sunset as its background. We were full of tears and i saw the guests were also in awe.

It was interesting how different we were but that was nothing just because a little thing called love. Love united us all become one. I realize how different us, Indonesian and Australian, in arranging things in wedding. Indonesian usually get excited in setting flowers and balloons for wedding decorations. We did. Meanwhile, Australian get excited in setting table with a lot of candies and chocolates which we love so much. Other thing, we tend to sing in wedding party. Australian tend to dance and make games, which again we love so much. At first, i thought it would be awkward if we just mingled and dance together, but turned out, Australian family was very sweet and humble. We were easily get in touch with them and just joining them dancing. It was really fun. It was the best wedding i have ever attend to, and i said it like thousand times to the bride since she was very anxious and afraid of bad unplanned things would happened. Hell no. The wedding was as perfect as her.

Funny how we took care of hers while talking and going flash back to some years ago. How we talked about homeworks that has given to us from school and now we are talking about the real "home works". Funny how we talked about wondering what the future would be and we are in that future. We have celebrated birthday parties for almost 15 times in 15 years, so basically we have felt every emotions together from the sadness to happiness. And we were always be there for each other in every important conditions, i guess. Each of us hope that we can be there for each other in the next important moments until our hair get grey-ish and some wrinkles show up in our face. At the end, we went back and felt how we spend days all this time happily and probably this time is the happiest time for her and us too. Again, it taught me about love. Kind of friendship-love. So, congratulation Sob ! We are happy for you.

I have always wondered why Bali become one of magical place that people wanted to visit. Till i get there and found the reason of why(s). Bali is like one big package from God, as it has the magic scenery. The beaches, terraces, mountains, hills, you name it. Everything is there. I mean, in other islands in Indonesia, we have that too. But Balinese have a power to utilize what God give them by maximize it with the cultures, architectures, good behavior in the people, and how they take a good care of natural things. It become attractiveness to the visitors.

I think every corner in Bali is amazing and it make us want to bring our partner to witness them together. The sharing feeling. So no wonder why lovebirds are everywhere in Bali. How we see amazing thing and we don't want to take all of that all by ourselves. Bali gives that feeling. It gave us some desires for us to talk and feel the magnificence of surroundings there. Beaches, which brings and shows so much love and calming feeling when we are there. I just talked with the foreigner and she said that time somehow stops in Bali. It somehow makes us live.

For me, the packaging that Allah gave me to see, it is something that make me feel blessed and love the life that is given. So, it was kind of something i want to share about. It is just my thought about little thing that disturb me. I have read a news about how people mock about other people and moreover about their faith. How they can't respect each other is really annoying, in my opinion. I mean, do we really have no other thing to be care of beside other people's business? What about we unite and make peace? Spread love and give love as much as possible. Even after people get tired of giving love, just keep giving it. Adding the kindness too. Why bother other people's peaceful life? Do we as human being really can feel satisfied of what we already have? People make mistake. And that's make us learn. Nobody's perfect because we ain't God. Besides, we believe what we believe and that's not fault. Lakum Dinukum Waliyadiin. Bali gave me a good example of mutual respect. It taught me about how we respect the values, the norms, the faith that other people have. It made me to see more, listen more, observe more and feel more. It made me to feel more grateful. How He create things as perfect as it seems and give us fresh air to breath, it made me love the life more. Love Allah more. Though life is effin' hard, though the lemons keep coming to us, though some rocks keep falling on our head, though the world seems heavy, though the possibility becomes impossibility, though the walls around us are hard to break, the moment we can still wake up in the morning and breath the fresh air, it shows Allah still loves us. Hence, Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah again. Alhamdulillah ever after.

Besides that, there is one thing  that i learned through my journey to Bali. Self-love. How we love ourselves is beyond anything. When we love ourselves, we have enough love to share and that is the most important thing in life. There are some magic words that work for me, lately. It helps me through all of the dark times. It happened after i got an idea about self-love from Bali. How it taught me to give love more that i expect to receive the loves, to my self, without exception. 

My Magic Words:
1. Inna maal usri yusroo..

2. Ya sudah apa boleh buat..

3. Ya sudah jalanin aja dulu. Perkara kemarin lupain, perkara besok ngga usah dipikirin

4. Ya emang udah jalannya. Terima aja..

5. Yaudah ikhlas aja. Inget, ikhlas itu kaya kalo lagi buang air. Ngga usah diinget, inget. Ngga usah diseselin..

6. Yaudahlah ya, mau gimana lagi. Nanti juga ada gantinya. Ada hikmahnya.

7. Que Sera-sera..

Because, one of indicators for self-love is acceptance. Not pushing yourself to get something that probably doesn't mean for you. Not become a pessimist, but to accept things. God has the best plan. To make us realize that sometimes life gives you romanticism of beautiful sky but after it gave us lemons or even storm. But after all, this too shall pass, isn't it? And in the end, what we have been worried, means nothing when we died. So, by accepting things sometimes is just all we need. Same as love, which all we need. So, Spread Love, to yourself and others <3